Why

A follower asked me to describe my need to be dominated.

What do I get out of it?  Why was I attracted to it in the first place?  Why am I not miserable in turning all of my power over to a man, and doesn’t that make him selfish and oblivious to my needs?

I get many pleasures from my submission.  First there is the release from responsibilities.  In the rest of my life, you see, I am very responsible. Almost hyper-responsible.  Full time job, bills, chores, lawn care, house repairs, social responsibilities.  All of these tend to fall on my shoulders.  My relationship with Sir is the one area in which I don’t need to make any decisions.  It’s a huge relief to me.  

I also derive a great deal of pleasure from serving him.  My pleasure comes from giving him pleasure.   And yes, that means sucking his cock.  But I also love getting him tea at the restaurant.  I adore taking his boots off for him.   

And contrary to what you might think, all that power has not gone to his head!  Being a good Dom means he has to think about not only his needs, but those of his submissive.  Even when, especially when her needs and her wants are two different things.  Being a good Dom means he gives me those maintenance whacks even when I’m telling him in a teary whisper that I hate it.  And he gives me the whacks anyway.  Because he knows that I need him to be in charge.  He knows that when the whacks are over and I’m wiping away my tears, blowing my nose, I’ll be all relaxed and submissive.  When it’s time to go home, I’ll be smiling up at him, kissing him one more time, thanking him for my maintenance beating.  And that happy submissive feeling will last me all week.